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Love bombing from someone you just met
4 reports mention this, all in the last 90 days.
Intense affection within days: 'I've never felt like this', pet names, talk of a future together, sometimes before you've heard their voice. It feels flattering, which is the point. It's the emotional groundwork for a request that comes later.
What it looks like
- Declarations of love or 'destiny' in the first week.
- Messages morning, noon, and night, with mild sulking if you're slow to reply.
- They mirror everything: your hobbies, your values, your losses.
- 'What we have is special, let's keep it between us.'
What is love bombing and why do scammers do it?
Constant attention creates a bond faster than real dating does, and a bond makes it hard to say no. Once you feel chosen, questioning them feels like betraying them. Scripts lean on this because it works on sharp, careful people, not just lonely ones. The FTC's romance-scam data shows the money request almost always comes after weeks of this.
What to do
- Slow it down on purpose. Someone real will still be there next week.
- Tell a friend what's been said. Hearing yourself describe it out loud helps.
- Treat any money, gift card, or crypto request as the end of the story, not a test of your feelings.
- If you already sent something, act now, minutes matter.
More in the tips: Dating and new online friends.
Numbers people reported for this
Latest reports
- Open reportSocial media · Ongoing relationship
- Open reportSomewhere else · Ongoing relationship
had a terrible experience with this girl. at first she was sweet and made me feel like i was the only person she wanted but eventually she started acting like cassie from euphoria. constantly needed attention and validation, switched up depending on who was giving it to her and somehow always became the victim when confronted. one minute she was obsessed with me, the next she acted completely different. everything was emotional, impulsive and full of drama. exhausting to deal with
- Open reportSocial media · First time meetingReviewed
he put his hands on me and tried to rape me while i was asleep. he does not care about anyone but himself and only follows females.