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Dodged basic questions, then got defensive
5 reports mention this, all in the last 90 days.
You ask something ordinary, like where they work or what part of town they live in, and get a vague answer, a subject change, or a flash of anger. People describe it as the moment the conversation stopped feeling like a conversation.
What it looks like
- Answers that are somehow both long and empty.
- 'Why are you interrogating me?' after a single follow-up question.
- The story is fine as long as you don't ask about it twice.
- Guilt trips that turn the question back on you.
Why does someone get defensive over simple questions?
A script only covers so much. Ask something the script didn't prepare for and the person behind it, who might be running many chats at once, has to improvise. Getting defensive is a way to shut the question down and make you feel bad for asking. Real people mostly like being asked about their lives.
What to do
- Ask the question again, calmly, later. Watch whether the answer matches.
- Notice how you feel. If you're editing yourself to avoid upsetting a stranger, that's the signal.
- Cross-check anything checkable: employer, city, the name on the profile.
- If a money conversation starts, the dodging was the setup. What the four signs look like.
More in the tips: The four signs of a scam.
Numbers people reported for this
Latest reports
- Open reportSomewhere else · Ongoing relationship
had a terrible experience with this girl. at first she was sweet and made me feel like i was the only person she wanted but eventually she started acting like cassie from euphoria. constantly needed attention and validation, switched up depending on who was giving it to her and somehow always became the victim when confronted. one minute she was obsessed with me, the next she acted completely different. everything was emotional, impulsive and full of drama. exhausting to deal with
- Open reportSocial media · After a falling out
Brings race into everything and thinks black people are superior than everything
- Open reportSocial media · First time meetingReviewed
he put his hands on me and tried to rape me while i was asleep. he does not care about anyone but himself and only follows females.